Why you should talk with nonverbal people

they’re worth talking to

The Least of These


Something that I’ve been learning the hard way as the parent of a child with autism has been that, even when he appears indifferent, William’s desire to be a part of the action is intense.

So I’ve been building constant reminders into my daily life to help me change the habit of assuming he’s not paying attention.

One of the things I did was to post an article to Facebook written by a man with Asperger’s, discussing things that people do that are damaging to people on the spectrum. This post really got me between the eyes.

He talks about the time he visited an autism treatment facility and, though he was in a bad mood and he hates and barely understands small talk, he sat down next to a nonverbal boy and made some small talk with him about the weather.

For most people, small talk can be painful when it doesn’t…

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Is “Autistic” the New “R” Word?

I pledge to stand up for what’s right.

Never Less Than Everything


Content Warning: contains highly offensive and inappropriate language quoted from social media.

 The “N” word.

The “C” word.

The “R” word.

Our culture is rife with pejoratives.

Lately it seems that every time I sign into Twitter, I am met with several hundred messages that look like this (these are quoted directly from the Twitter steam tonight. I have not included their sources, but the writers should be especially ashamed):

“spell right you autistic sack of cancer”

“Also she tried to slate my looks when she looks like the back end of an autistic donkey with glasses? Like cmon you fat c***, f*** off.”

“why is paypal so autistic?” 

“are you an autistic f***ing idiot to ?” 

The sad reality is that I did not have to look for more than a minute to find these and so many more examples. I will admit that if I am…

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To our allies: an apology, of sorts

Never Less Than Everything

surreal_bridge_by_jantheempressJan the Empress

So, recently I was trolling on ASAN’s FB page, and found this two-star review:

I’m a mom of a child with autism and I am trying to teach him to be a good, strong self advocate. The problem I have with the page is that the self advocates seem to think so many neuro typicals are bad and terrible. Some of my comments were removed because they didn’t like what I said. I think they are not as helpful to the cause as they like to think they are.

Now, I don’t know what the comments or the posts were…that being said, I know the attitude that might have brought this into being. I know this because it is something that I have as well. My response was this:

Please don’t take personal offense…it’s just…when there are people like the ones I mention in this article (including…

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“just like you did”

There have been several posts over the last few days about the necessity of a right to privacy for ALL children – especially those who are disabled. Parental desire to “vent”, “share”, “help”, “encourage”, “bond”, etc. does not trump our kids’ RIGHT to a secure, safe, PRIVATE childhood/life.

Reading one of my favorite facebook pages (also blogs) – A Diary of a Mom, I came across a post from a mom/commenter whose DAD said it all – and very simply:

“He’s going to misbehave. He still has a right to do it without Facebook, his friends mom’s, his teachers, or anybody else knowing about it. Just like you did”.

The End