Why I Fight

This is why. Why I read, why I share, why I signal boost, why the autistic community leads me. THIS.

Never Less Than Everything

(I’m putting a content warning up here…after the first paragraph, I’m going into the really terrible realities of my autistic brethren…personally, I believe these are important things to know, but that doesn’t make them easier truths to swallow).

So, I first want to say thanks to everybody who shared my review of Neurotribes…the over 618 (Combining the Guide’s share and the shares from the blog) of you. The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism, a rather important website that was actually mentioned in the latter part of Neurotribes, also shared my review here as well, which is also amazing…I’m still in a state of shock, but that hasn’t stopped me from telling everybody today because I’m extremely happy…Steve has actually agreed to do an interview with me when he can, so I’m extremely happy in almost every way possible…almost because, this week, one of the people I told responded in a way…

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Disability, Gender, Sexuality and Hair

Little things, they really aren’t little things. They really mean a lot.


When I moved from my home in Saskatchewan to Toronto to study for my Masters degree, I didn’t cut my hair. This was an act of defiance.

That may seem like an odd thing to say as a straight cisgender woman and yet it’s true.

The gendered world in which we live often says that for women to be beautiful, they should have long hair, so long hair would seem to be more of a capitulation to gender norms than a radical act. There are strong societal ties to how people view women and hair.

Long hair is feminine and beautiful whereas short hair is not, it supposedly veers into androgyny and there is a stereotype that women with short hair are lesbians. These are stereotypes that should absolutely be challenged but it is impossible to argue that society hasn’t internalized them and it changes the way people are treated.

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What a Birthday Should Look Like

Donl’t “should” all over yourself. Create what works 🙂

We just celebrated my son’s ninth birthday. If you had asked me ten years ago what my future son’s ninth birthday would look like, I might have described the perfect summer pool party. Something rambunctious and loud and perfectly planned. Water balloons and canon ball contests and twenty sun-kissed kids clamoring around a cake shaped like a surfboard. Hot dogs and music and grown up drinks in red plastic cups for the adults.

Guess whose ninth birthday looked absolutely nothing like that.

This is what we do, we special needs parents. We compare what we think a childhood should look like to what our kid’s experience actually is. I play this game a lot, and it’s like Tic Tac Toe. Nobody wins.

This birthday, I stopped myself from creating a day I thought my son should want. I didn’t plan a thing. There were no invitations and no guests. I…

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