A Response to Former Special Ed Teachers Who Want to “Show Affection” to Our Adult Participants.

Really, really, really (one more time) really important.

ACAT: Ala Costa Adult Transition Program

The first thing we teach all of the adult participants in our programs is the importance of personal space. This is a concept which seems clear to me, but it is one which we get a lot of pushback from the community about all the time, particularly when it comes to former teachers and staff hugging our adult clients while they are in program. This is a recent example from an email conversation I had with a former teacher and my response to that conversation:

….” Isn’t it normal for people who have known each for years to exchange affections? I know their work is important, but so is keeping up social relations with people in our lives, past and present?…”

Everyone has a right to their own bodies, the space around their bodies, as well the thoughts, hopes and dreams which come from their bodies. We get to choose who touches…

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Meltdown Bingo: Autistic Edition

Really helpful info, and great points about ableism.

Silence Breaking Sound

TW/Content note: Abuse of autistic people; demonstrative use of disability slur; self-injury; in-depth descriptions of being in the middle of a meltdown.

UPDATE: The article on The Mighty that led to this post has been taken down.

The Bingo Sheet meme has existed as a way for marginalized communities to catalog and make fun of the bad things they experience.  This usually takes the form of quoting common hurtful, invalidating or dismissive things they hear from other people.  For instance, there is American Racial Incident Bingo for the ways in which white people respond badly to instances of violence against people of color, and Fat Hatred Bingo for the ways the concern trolls and other people justify bias against fat people.

So, given this context, the autistic community was none too happy when an online disability publication called The Mighty published a Meltdown Bingo… as written from the perspective of a…

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Unsolicited Help – Thanks But No Thanks!

Having a disability does not mean having NO abilities.
“Helping” isn’t helpful without respect.


I know it’s a little late (or early) for a blog post but I’m still working off the late afternoon coffee I had after my lung function test on Tuesday.

I was recounting something to my friend at my appointment that happened to me this weekend.  I thought maybe sharing this & another associated story might help people with some compassion & understanding of why even if someone has a limitation they are still a person whose space & wishes should be respected at all times & in all places…

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