White Shame

Just because a truth is uncomfortable, doesn’t make it less true.

Married, With Aspergers

My culture is one
Where people
Who look like me
Can stand fearlessly
And express hatred
Of people who look different.

My culture is one
Where terrorists
Are always “them”
And never “us”.

My culture is one
Where freedom
Means the freedom
To oppress and abuse
Anyone different.

My culture is one
Where laws pay lip service
To illusory equality
While turning a blind eye
To casual prejudice.

My culture is one
Where my membership
By virtue of my skin
Brings me shame
Of association.

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a complex system

What’s inside us all

a diary of a mom


{image is a screenshot of Joy from Inside Out watching Riley’s daily inventory of memories slide down the chute}

Brooke and I settled in to watch Inside Out the other night. Though that may seem like a simple sentence, for my girl, watching a movie is not a simple thing.

For various reasons, movies just don’t tend to work for her. While there have been a couple of exceptions over the years (literally two), even those have recently fallen by the wayside.

Although all the characters of Godspell are still a big part of our lives, not long after Oomahdied, Brooke declared that that we would no longer watch the movie or see the play. The scene when Jesus dies is now more than she can bear.

As for the other movie, The Chipmunks, well, I don’t know, after years and years on a loop, it just stopped seems to…

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When Is It Okay to Chain Your Child to a Bed?


Unstrange Mind

chain with padlockThe answer should be obvious, right? Never. Never is it okay to chain your child to a bed and leave him alone, crying out for someone to give him water.

This is what happened in Australia where a mother chained her 16-year-old Autistic son to the bed and left him there alone while she went to the store. If you are upset for that young man, good! You should be! I’m upset on his behalf but I’m also upset and disturbed that, once again, I witness the trend of empathizing with the abusive parent and virtually ignoring everything about the child.

The Facebook administrator for Autism Awareness Australia gave mere lip service to the suffering of the young man and focused most of the spotlight on the mother:

A horrific story…..for everyone involved. Whilst no parent should do this to their child, we can only imagine the desperate situation this…

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